So i have figured it out.
Pin 1 seems to be ground to the steering wheel controls.
Pin 2 is for the volume control and skip
Pin 3 is for the answer call and voice assistant buttons below the steering wheel.
I have connected the wires Key 1 and Key 2 to to every combination of those wires but I am not getting any feedback to the radio.
I found a youtube video of a guy saying he needed to ground Key 2 while it was connected for it to work.
I tried this, when I ground either of the 2 wires I get a signal to the radio, but without pressing any buttons, so it is just getting a general ground resistance.
I also tried key 1 and 2 to pin 2 and pin 3 respectively, and then manually ground pin 1 but I get the same as above sadly.